Change It

It's Your Life... Change It

We all have things in life that we’re not happy with. Goals that we haven’t reached, relationships that we’ve neglected, self care that we’ve forgotten about. These are the kinds of things that linger over our heads and whisper self-doubt into our all too receiving minds. Which in turn begins a viscous cycle of inner criticism and talking ourselves down.

As we’ve said before, self doubt is a real bitch. It kills every dream we think of, it sabotages our successes that we should be celebrating, and replaces them with reflections of all the other things we still have to do.

So, here’s the question: who is going to change it? Who is going to watch out for you enough to bring you through that nasty self deprecation that you’re drowning in?

The answer is simple: it’s yourself. Nobody else is going to change your life except you. There’s nobody on a white horse that’s going to come in and save you, and clean up your life. You’re your own white knight.

Clearly, that’s easier preached than done. As a human race, we’ve learned to be a powerfully self-doubting bunch. Our minds alone are capable of completely dragging us down to rock bottom. With absolutely no outside influence, we will resolutely convince ourselves that we’re not good enough, it’s not possible, and we shouldn’t even try.

And that’s that.

Now it’s time for a little tough love. Get over that.

YOU are in control of your mind.

If someone else gets to you, that’s on you. Yes, it’s their fault that they’re a complete POS who enjoys bringing other people down. And trust us, they’ll get theirs, one way or another. But you’re the one who gave them the power to influence you in the first place.

YOU are the one giving your own mind the power to bring yourself down.

We’re not trying to downplay what people have been though, or the experiences you’ve survived. We know full well the shit storm that life can rain down on your head. And that’s draining. It can take everything you have from you. It can leave you as an empty shell. But there’s STILL a way to pick yourself up, and not only keep moving on, but to blast your way through the next door, fist raised high.

Some of us have been through unimaginable life events. Many have lived through pain that most couldn’t even fathom enduring. But MOST of us? Most of us have just been through shit. And we’re leaning on that crutch as an excuse to not follow through now.

We say ‘we’, because we’ve fully played our part in this self pitying game.

But we’re done.

We’re done feeling sorry for ourselves, and thinking of every excuse in the book to not follow our dreams, or live our lives to the fullest. There is NO genuine reason that we shouldn’t just be thanking God every single day for our blessings, and giving back this time that we’ve been gifted. Because our time ISN’T our own. So the least we can do is use it in a way that reflects the gratitude we feel for having it.

Life will never stop throwing road blocks in front of you. It’s plain and simple. It will never be smooth sailing. You will never be exempt from the heart shattering, world shaking phone calls, or events. And you will never be excused from the little inconveniences either, like stepping on a lego.

But you can choose how you deal with them. You can choose how you react, how you carry yourself, and how you treat people.

Your life will continue going forward, even if you aren’t. Time will pass, regardless of your participation. So if you want something, then get it. If you want your life to be different, then change it.

Stop waiting for the perfect moment, or the ideal situation. Likely, it’s not going to happen. But that’s no reason to go for it. Motivation will ebb and flow. You won’t always be riding into battle with a trumpet and a flag. Sometimes, your horse will be dragging you, half alive, through the pits. But YOU get to decide to keep going, keep wading through the shit, and not settling for less.

And when you get there, because you WILL get there if you try for long enough, you’ll realize how freaking bad ass you are.

You’ll realize that yeah, you might’ve had some shoulders to lean on, or ears to talk to on the way, but YOU put in the work, and YOU brought yourself to this moment.

There is not a single person reading this, that this doesn’t apply to. Stop making excuses, and start making changes.

Persistence, dedication, and self belief are powerful things. And they will take you anywhere you want to go.

27 Comments

  • Dasynka

    September 23, 2017 at 10:51 am

    I love so much what you wrote, I think alla these things and try to do my best with my mind everyday… but it’s important a little remainder sometimes, so thank you for sharing these positive vibes!
    Dasynka
    http://dasynka.com

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      September 23, 2017 at 4:54 pm

      Thank you Dasynka! We agree, it’s nice to have a reminder every now and then. Have a great weekend!

  • Audrey | Brunch at Audrey’s

    September 23, 2017 at 7:12 pm

    Yes yes yes! I admit that it can be fun to complain sometimes, but rather than just moving your mouth and hoping that someone else will fix it for you, it’s so much more productive (and responsible??) to be the change you want to see. -Audrey | Brunch at Audrey’s

  • jordan @ dancing for donuts

    September 24, 2017 at 1:08 am

    couldn’t have written it better myself. love your words and your honesty. i need this today, thank you for giving me a kick in the pants!!!! <3

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      September 24, 2017 at 6:45 pm

      Thanks Jordan! Isn’t it amazing what a little inspo can do for your day?! Ben likes to say that motivation is like bathing… It’s recommended daily 🙂 haha. Have a great day!

  • Nancy

    September 24, 2017 at 5:54 am

    I agree with you 100%! We can’t expect change if we do nothing about it. There’s a reaction because of an action. There was someone who kept on crapping on the things I do and I came to realize that I have control on whether to let it bother me or not. Thanks for this post, definitely a good motivation I need! 🙂

    https://exquisitely.me

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      September 24, 2017 at 6:52 pm

      Hahaha there’s ALWAYS that person! But you’re so right, we get to control if they have ANY effect on us and our lives. Once we really realize that and put it into practice, it makes a WORLD of difference. If we work hard enough and long enough, anything is possible!

  • Britney

    September 24, 2017 at 5:54 am

    Well said. 🙂 Whenever I’m thinking negative thoughts, I have to remind myself that I am in control of my own happiness.

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      September 24, 2017 at 6:46 pm

      Exactly! Our minds have so much power, but it can easily go both ways. WE make ourselves happy!

  • Laura Mitbrodt

    September 24, 2017 at 6:46 am

    This is so inspiring
    xo
    http://www.laurajaneatelier.com

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      September 24, 2017 at 6:52 pm

      Thank you Laura!

  • Emily

    September 25, 2017 at 2:04 am

    This is some really great advice! I am not one to make excuses at all. I try to after each day, and if I dont like something, I figure out why and I change it. 🙂

    -Emily http://www.coatandcoffee.com

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      September 25, 2017 at 11:08 pm

      Thanks Emily! That’s such a great attitude to have. And after you do that day after day, it takes you a long way!

  • the adventurer

    September 25, 2017 at 3:03 am

    Such a great post! I got excited and motivated just reading through it =o) I couldn’t agree more about how life will continue to throw us roadblocks but we can choose how we deal with it

    https://dreamofadventures.com/

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      September 25, 2017 at 11:09 pm

      Thank you! That makes us so happy to hear! And it’s so true, they’ll keep coming at us, so we’ve just gotta work with what we’ve got!

  • Yiota

    September 25, 2017 at 4:45 am

    Yes, everything in this post is so inspiring. I strongly believe that we need to work hard to accomplish our dreams and goals, nothing comes for free. And if something does not work right, we have the power to change it! Happy Monday xx

    Yiota
    PinkDaisyLoves

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      September 25, 2017 at 11:11 pm

      Amen girl! We are such believers that if you work hard and persist, you WILL get where you want to be. It takes patience though, that’s for sure! But it’s a VERY good feeling to know we have the power to change what we’re not happy with. Happy Monday! Have a great week!

  • Zhanna

    September 25, 2017 at 5:03 am

    Waiting for a perfect moment was one of my issues for a while until I finally decided to give a try to something I’ve been wanting to do for years and years. You are right, once you start, magically (or not magically at all) you find a way, time, resources, whatever you need for achieving your goad.

    http://www.morethandestination.com

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      September 25, 2017 at 11:12 pm

      We’ve definitely been guilty of waiting for the perfect moment. For a LONG time. And then we realized that if we kept waiting, we’d be doing that for forever! Pushing forward is the best way to create change!

  • Tales of Two

    September 25, 2017 at 11:24 am

    So much love for this “You can choose how you react, how you carry yourself, and how you treat people.”
    Negative thoughts and insecurity can be a real bitch sometimes but we all got to just take a step back and think of all the people in the world that have it so much worse !
    I am a big believer in everything happens for a reason even horrible things!

    http://www.talesoftwoblog.blogspot.com

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      September 25, 2017 at 11:15 pm

      It’s SO true. There are so many instances in our lives where we thought everything was falling apart, but now we look back and go… ‘ohhhh, okay’. All the experienced have served to shape us, or teach us, even if it wasn’t comfortable! And we DO have to be grateful for what we have, because there’s a long going on in this world. We love your thoughts on this!

  • Agness of Fit Travelling

    September 25, 2017 at 6:13 pm

    Our minds are definitely powerful! Your post is very inspiring and motivating! Keep thinking positive!

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      September 25, 2017 at 11:15 pm

      Thanks Agness! So much love!

  • Hiroko

    September 26, 2017 at 7:17 pm

    Some people seem to have 400 reasons on why they can’t do something or something won’t work out, but not a single way they could potentially make it work. It’s so true that in this world, no one’s gonna do anything for you. You can’t expect for that white knight to come help you, especially when it comes to making yourself happy. You’re the only person who knows what will make you happy, so you’re in charge of doing that for yourself!

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      September 27, 2017 at 12:56 am

      AMEN! And we especially agree with that first part. Instead of thinking of every reason why we can’t, how about we starting thinking of all the reason we CAN! Everyone is self made, it’s just the successful ones who will tell you that haha.

  • Kim

    October 5, 2017 at 3:34 pm

    I’m loving all the motivation and inspiration in this post! I always say, if not now then when? because I never want to miss an opportunity due to being nervous, scared or worried about timing!

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      October 5, 2017 at 11:55 pm

      It’s so true Kim! We really don’t know how much time we have, so why wait a minute of it?! Bet big to win big!

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