We all have things in life that we’re not happy with. Goals that we haven’t reached, relationships that we’ve neglected, self care that we’ve forgotten about. These are the kinds of things that linger over our heads and whisper self-doubt into our all too receiving minds. Which in turn begins a viscous cycle of inner criticism and talking ourselves down.
As we’ve said before, self doubt is a real bitch. It kills every dream we think of, it sabotages our successes that we should be celebrating, and replaces them with reflections of all the other things we still have to do.
So, here’s the question: who is going to change it? Who is going to watch out for you enough to bring you through that nasty self deprecation that you’re drowning in?
The answer is simple: it’s yourself. Nobody else is going to change your life except you. There’s nobody on a white horse that’s going to come in and save you, and clean up your life. You’re your own white knight.
Clearly, that’s easier preached than done. As a human race, we’ve learned to be a powerfully self-doubting bunch. Our minds alone are capable of completely dragging us down to rock bottom. With absolutely no outside influence, we will resolutely convince ourselves that we’re not good enough, it’s not possible, and we shouldn’t even try.
And that’s that.
Now it’s time for a little tough love. Get over that.
YOU are in control of your mind.
If someone else gets to you, that’s on you. Yes, it’s their fault that they’re a complete POS who enjoys bringing other people down. And trust us, they’ll get theirs, one way or another. But you’re the one who gave them the power to influence you in the first place.
YOU are the one giving your own mind the power to bring yourself down.
We’re not trying to downplay what people have been though, or the experiences you’ve survived. We know full well the shit storm that life can rain down on your head. And that’s draining. It can take everything you have from you. It can leave you as an empty shell. But there’s STILL a way to pick yourself up, and not only keep moving on, but to blast your way through the next door, fist raised high.
Some of us have been through unimaginable life events. Many have lived through pain that most couldn’t even fathom enduring. But MOST of us? Most of us have just been through shit. And we’re leaning on that crutch as an excuse to not follow through now.
We say ‘we’, because we’ve fully played our part in this self pitying game.
But we’re done.
We’re done feeling sorry for ourselves, and thinking of every excuse in the book to not follow our dreams, or live our lives to the fullest. There is NO genuine reason that we shouldn’t just be thanking God every single day for our blessings, and giving back this time that we’ve been gifted. Because our time ISN’T our own. So the least we can do is use it in a way that reflects the gratitude we feel for having it.
Life will never stop throwing road blocks in front of you. It’s plain and simple. It will never be smooth sailing. You will never be exempt from the heart shattering, world shaking phone calls, or events. And you will never be excused from the little inconveniences either, like stepping on a lego.
But you can choose how you deal with them. You can choose how you react, how you carry yourself, and how you treat people.
Your life will continue going forward, even if you aren’t. Time will pass, regardless of your participation. So if you want something, then get it. If you want your life to be different, then change it.
Stop waiting for the perfect moment, or the ideal situation. Likely, it’s not going to happen. But that’s no reason to go for it. Motivation will ebb and flow. You won’t always be riding into battle with a trumpet and a flag. Sometimes, your horse will be dragging you, half alive, through the pits. But YOU get to decide to keep going, keep wading through the shit, and not settling for less.
And when you get there, because you WILL get there if you try for long enough, you’ll realize how freaking bad ass you are.
You’ll realize that yeah, you might’ve had some shoulders to lean on, or ears to talk to on the way, but YOU put in the work, and YOU brought yourself to this moment.
There is not a single person reading this, that this doesn’t apply to. Stop making excuses, and start making changes.
Persistence, dedication, and self belief are powerful things. And they will take you anywhere you want to go.