Why You Should Love Failure

Why You Should Love Failure

Failure. It’s a single word that causes anxiety, dread, and doubt. As a society, we’ve been taught to fear failure. We’ve learned to avoid or deny it at any cost. Why? Because of what it supposedly symbolizes – which is inadequacy. It says, “YOU’RE NOT GOOD ENOUGH”.

Well, you know what we say? F*ck that. We love failure.Β  And here’s why you should too.

Social media and societal ideals have done a number on our mental state by insisting that we need to be perfect at just about everything. Prepare and eat healthy, beautifully cooked and plated meals. Have insanely sculpted, fat free bodies. Work high paying power careers that we just absolutely love. Be your own boss. Be an overnight success story.

News flash. That’s not life.

All of those little tidbits come together to make us feel like we haven’t done shit. OR, that if we can’t achieve all of those things, we’ve a big fat failure. Because everyone else makes it look so f-in easy.

Nobody talks about failure. Nobody acknowledges it. And if they do, it’s after the fact and they’re already a raging, in your face success story.

Which kind of makes it a moot point.

Failure holds people back from just about EVERYTHING. People literally won’t take the first step because their immediate thought is, “what if I fail?”. Our fear of failure prevents us from pushing the envelope. It holds us back from going for our dreams.

It literally steals our life away.

Here’s the dirty truth… You WILL fail. You’ll fail over and over and over again. And it’s going to feel like crap. And it’s going to be hard.

Success is a bumpy road. It’s not for the faint of heart. But failure is necessary, because it reminds you that you’re TRYING. That’s one of the reasons we love failure so much. It reminds you that you’re on the road to success. Failure is the thing that proves to yourself that you’re not going to settle for less.

If you fail once and give up, you lose. But if you fail over and over and over again, and you KEEP trying, you’re kicking ass. Does it feel like it? Maybe not. But think about it, how many people have the persistence, the belief, and the dedication to fail hundreds of times, and to keep trying?

YOU do.

Failure means you’re doing something MORE. It means that you’re pushing yourself. It shows that you’re changing. It tells the world that you’re not down to settle for mediocre.

The more you fail, the closer you are to success.

So instead of being afraid of failure, embrace it. Take each one, learn from it, and push forward. Learn to love failure and you will get SO much from it.

Failure is a reminder that you are, and you have, so much more. So remember, that the only time you’ve actually failed, is if you stop trying.

 

32 Comments

  • Miriam

    October 19, 2017 at 9:04 am

    Completely agree with you – failure is part of life and shouldn’t be anything to be afraid of. It is sad that we are surrounded by messages to be perfect at everything we do which is so unrealistic. Happy to embrace failure πŸ™‚ Have a great weekend!

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      October 20, 2017 at 2:00 am

      Isn’t it?! The worst thing about it is that it prevents us from trying new things. Imperfection is the spice of life!
      You too Miriam!

  • Heather Rowland

    October 19, 2017 at 11:07 am

    This was such an inspirational post – failure is inevitable but the most important thing is being able to accept it and move on. Thanks for such a great post!

    Heather xx
    https://www.hefafa.me.uk

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      October 20, 2017 at 2:00 am

      We so agree Heather. If you can learn from it, you can turn failure into a tool!
      Thank YOU!

  • Amy

    October 19, 2017 at 2:34 pm

    I loved this post. I think people are so afraid of failing and not looking perfect, that it stops them from doing things they want to do. I know I’ve strayed away from a few opportunities because I was scared of failure, which I really regret. It’s always better to give things a go when you have the chance!

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      October 20, 2017 at 2:01 am

      Thank you Amy! We think it’s so true that being able to say “I tried and I failed” is FAR better than saying you never even tried at all!

  • Beatrice

    October 20, 2017 at 4:20 am

    So much truth in this post! I always feel like I see similar messages all at once. I was standing in a school office today and saw a quote that said “I’d rather regret the things I’ve done than regret the things I haven’t done.” Also, I remember when I did the Couch to 5K and one of the things the app kept saying was that even if you don’t make it far, you’re still lapping the people who are staying on their couches πŸ™‚

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      October 20, 2017 at 11:35 pm

      EXACTLY! To look back and think ‘what if’ sounds FAR worse than thinking ‘well, I never tried!’. And we so agree with that philosophy :). 1 mile is a whole mile more than if you hadn’t even started!

  • Pauline

    October 20, 2017 at 8:54 am

    I loved this post so much! Everything you said is bang on right – I always tell people about all the failures I had to go through before succeeding to showcase that I am not perfect (my Instagram squares can say that I am but I am not) Like for example, I wanted to take a placement year to stand out with my degree. What did I do? I failed. So many times. Rejections left, right and centre. Until the last application, I decided to put through and got and then ended up having a very successful year!

    Let’s always embrace failure!

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      October 20, 2017 at 11:37 pm

      We love it when people share their failures because it makes us feel SO much more connected and human! It helps us realize that we’re not alone! The same thing happened when I was applying to be a teacher at a district that’s notoriously hard to get in to. I think they rejected about 50 applications until I got ONE interview, and got hired at my dream school!
      Without the failure, we wouldn’t be nearly as strong :).

  • Stella Asteria

    October 20, 2017 at 11:04 am

    I can’t agree with you more! Thanks so much for the reminder with this post πŸ™‚ We should love our failures cause we learn from them! πŸ™‚
    Stella
    https://www.stellaasteria.com

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      October 20, 2017 at 11:38 pm

      Thanks Stella! It’s crazy how much we can learn from it!

  • Lottie

    October 20, 2017 at 6:35 pm

    Definitely believe in failures, even from the simple things like getting a math equation wrong back in high school, the next time around I would learn and get it right!
    http://www.lottiegibbons.com

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      October 20, 2017 at 11:38 pm

      And then you feel even more accomplished when you DO succeed! Such a great connection :).

  • Valerie

    October 20, 2017 at 7:32 pm

    This is such an inspirational post! I totally agree with you that failure is necessary in order to be successful! I know in the situations where I’ve encountered failure, it helped me grow as an individual and make me stronger!

    http://roadesque.com

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      October 20, 2017 at 11:39 pm

      Thanks Valerie! It’s so much easier to look back and realize how we’ve benefitted from our failures, but once we started to really just embrace it, it makes failing in the moment so much easier to handle!

  • Dasynka

    October 20, 2017 at 9:11 pm

    You are so right, it’s so true what you write πŸ™‚
    Dasynka
    http://dasynka.com

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      October 20, 2017 at 11:40 pm

      Thanks!

  • the adventurer

    October 21, 2017 at 6:48 pm

    I absolutely love this post! Failure shouldn’t be looked at as something negative but instead as a lesson. I had taken my first architecture exam at the beginning of this year (there are seven I have to take) and failed it. I felt so ashamed when I got my test score. I am a terrible test taker and get extremely anxious before an exam, especially one that determines if I will become a licensed architect, a dream of mine. After crying and feeling terrible I realized that it was ok, this test was just a lesson on what I should expect on the exams, and before the exam I wanted to make it a goal to practice meditation as often as possible to help with my anxiety. When I went into the exam I had been meditating the morning of and felt completely calm walking into the exam. So I may have failed but I won at calming my anxiety =o)

    https://dreamofadventures.com/

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      October 21, 2017 at 10:01 pm

      We so agree! And so few people actually share their own experiences with failure, that we feel ashamed of our own, because it feels isolating. When in reality, EVERY person, no matter how successful they are, is dealing with/has dealt with failure. You story is a perfect example of how it ended up helping you because now you can apply what you learned to all of the tests you have in the future! We love your story!

  • Vick’s up

    October 22, 2017 at 2:23 am

    Your post is such an inspiration! Thank you!
    http://vicksup.com/

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      October 22, 2017 at 5:28 pm

      Thank you! YOU are an inspiration!

  • Agness of aTukTuk

    October 22, 2017 at 10:53 am

    I couldn’t agree more with everything you’ve stated in this post, Susie! Failure and mistakes are the best teachers.

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      October 22, 2017 at 5:29 pm

      Thanks Agness! They honestly are. It all comes down to how you look at it!

  • Emily

    October 22, 2017 at 4:48 pm

    I ADORE this post – it’s fantastic! I think it’s easy to look at perfect people and imagine that’s just what life is like for some people but we’ve all failed, multiple times in fact and it’s so important to channel that into something positive, something to spur us on.

    Musings & More

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      October 22, 2017 at 5:30 pm

      Thank you Emily! In a world full of comparison, it’s so easy to get sucked in. But we’ve just got to remember that everyone has gone through their own form of failure, and it all comes down to how you learn from it!

  • Laura Mitbrodt

    October 22, 2017 at 6:36 pm

    I totally agree with this, thanks for sharing
    xo
    http://www.laurajaneatelier.com

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      October 22, 2017 at 6:55 pm

      Thanks Laura!

  • Nancy

    October 22, 2017 at 6:38 pm

    Even though I don’t really open my arms out for failure, I do take it as an opportunity to learn a lesson and try to make something out of it. As long as you don’t give up and keep pushing towards success, failure is just a little detour. Who knows, the path you end up taking can actually be a bit better because of it! I know I was told I’ve failed several times before. It wasn’t the end of the world for me even though other people tried to make it seem like it is. Buuut hey, I still made it at the end XD.

    https://exquisitely.me

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      October 22, 2017 at 6:56 pm

      We don’t know how many times failure has taken us to a path that ended up being even better in the long run! There’s always a lesson to be learned from failure, whether it’s big or small. The people who want to make it seem like it’s the end of your world can kick rocks. YOU know how strong you are and what you’re capable of!

  • Sheena Sy Gonzales

    October 24, 2017 at 12:31 pm

    True!! You should definitely not be afraid to try!! Live life with no regrets. πŸ™‚

    Sheena | http://www.sheenalovessunsets.com

    1. Mile High Dreamers

      October 24, 2017 at 11:26 pm

      Amen! We so agree!

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